The purpose of using a rigidly held opinion to frame up or judge a situation is to keep things the same so as to stay in the current space, to be superior, flow power away from someone towards yourself, tell a victim story so as to 'gain the right to persecute', defend a position, etc. These are ways to create an Ordinary conversation.
The purpose of having a Metaconversation is to exit the current space and enter together a different space that offers the conversation or interaction more possibilities to choose from, such as Extraordinary or Archetypal possibilities.
Judgement can be detected through the ways it is expressed, such as through complaining, blaming, praising, undermining, criticizing, disapproving, approving, etc.
This Experiment is each time this week when you detect Judgement happening, get out your Beep! Book and interviewer the one judging. Ask the judger these 3 questions:
- What perspective do you hold that causes you to say the things you are saying?
- What is your purpose to view what is happening through the framework that ratifies or empowers your comments?
- Please describe to me what it is like inside of you that compels you to stay within this worldview.
Write down their answers in your Beep! Book on a page titled JUDGMENT RESEARCH.
Then interview the person who is allowing themselves to be judged, and ask them the same three questions. Write their answers down in your Beep! Book also.
Compare their answers.
Interview 5 pairs of people and see if you can create some kind of theory that explains what you noticed.